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Is my sexual fantasy normal?
“Anything you can imagine, someone else has imagined before you,” says New York-based sex therapist Cyndi Darnell, and also Rule 34. So the short answer is: yes, yes, yes and yes, your fantasy is normal. Darnell also says we shouldn’t read too much either. “Sometimes people like to analyze fantasies the way we might analyze our sleep dreams. If people say, ‘My God, I fantasize about going to Paris,’ no one ever says, ‘It’s because that you were abused as a child.’ No, you just want to go to Paris,” she adds. “But we’ve decided that sexual fantasies are these very risky things. And there’s frankly no difference between imagining having an orgy and having lunch in Paris. It means nothing but the meaning you give it.
This TikToker has genius tips to boost your dating confidence
And it’s not having a glass of wine while you’re getting ready, although in my experience that works in a pinch. Thanks to her hilarious teardowns misogynistic videos on the platform, Drew Afualo, a 26-year-old Californian, has quickly amassed over 7 million followers and is also gearing up to launch a new podcast. She chatted with Bustle about her top tips for building confidence, dealing with body image issues, and her favorite pre-date songs. Read more
Kourtney and Travis are ~officially~ married
The couple were spotted outside a Santa Barbara courthouse over the weekend and are believed to be now legally married, which they had to do before their wedding. big party in italy “very soon.” Congratulations to the happy couple, can’t wait to see what I’m sure will be very PDA-heavy Pictures. Read more
This recipe is #PastaTok’s latest obsession
There was the baked feta pasta craze of 2021 and the interpretation of goat cheese which came next, but this grown-up version of one of your childhood favorites is the platform’s noodle recipe of the day. Read more
14 Spicy Bralette Outfits for Vaxxed Girl Summer, Round 2
G-strings have become accessories, underboob bikinis are all the rage, and there’s a strapless dress on virtually every red carpet. It’s safe to say that underwear is now, officially, outerwear. Now, just in time for the real Hot Vaxxed Summer (I think we can all agree, last year didn’t really matter), bras receive the same treatment. Read more
At 14, Vanessa Bayer was bad at sports and coveted Jared Leto
Like most of us Emmy nominees SNL the star watched religiously my so called life, Melrose Squareand saved by the bell. Unlike most of us, however, Bayer was diagnosed with leukemia at age 15, which she battled through high school. His new Showtime series, I like it for you is loosely based on her experience as a young cancer patient who uses her own humor as a coping mechanism. She sat down with Bustle to talk about the show, her teenage obsession with QVC, and her boundless love of attention. Read more
Here is your daily horoscope
Find the silver lining. Read more